For everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

Right now. In the Midwest. Its cuffing season, ladies and gents.

For those who don’t know, let me define just what cuffing season is.

Cuffing season is a trendy term that denotes the time of year when many people get into relationships or for some, situationships. Mainly during the colder months of the year when sleigh bells are ringing, and cupid’s arrow becomes comfort soul food.

Around Summer’s Eve is when cuffing season ends. Let me put it this way. Beginning in the Fall through the end of Spring, if you receive texts or calls something to the tune of…

“Hey big head”

“Hey stranger”

“I miss you”

“I wanna see you” or even the classic one

“I guess you just forgot about me, huh?”

Chances are you’re being baited to be “cuffed”. To satisfy the appetite of whomever you entertained a time or two. A healthy relationship of longevity is usually not the end goal here. It may work out if pure intentions are established and executed by both parties involved. However, if there’s evidence of this repetitive behavior happening during the timeline outlined above, just be mindful of that and stay woke.

Recently I made a post on Instagram sharing that I took myself on a date two nights in a row. Going to the movie theater by myself was not something I did naturally growing up. I always had someone with me. A L W A Y S. Though I was perfectly fine on the first movie night, the next night felt a bit different. Not due to the difference in the film dynamics either. Suddenly I began to feel the weight of, I don’t know. Loneliness. As tears began to flow, I wanted to blame it on Lady Gaga’s stellar performance, but nah I doubt that was the root. And so, I’m like whoa, what’s this? I had a moment of discontentment. Period. We’ve all had our moments in and out of cuffing season. Don’t fret. Here’s to getting back on track.

3 Ways to Remain Content during Cuffing Season

1) Have a Heart Check

In Proverbs 4:23, the Bible says, “Above everything else, guard your heart because from it flows the issues of life.” What’s in your heart projects signals to your mind which shapes your thoughts, words and actions. There could be things hidden in your heart you’re unaware of. God will reveal those things to you. Just ask and He will replace your fears and tears with faith and peace. That simple? Yes. You must be willing to trust Him before anyone else.

2) Define Your Identity

Do you know who you are? Not just your name. I mean for real for real. Do you really know who you are? Why exactly were you born? Get to know your whole self. Do you like you? Would you date you? Have you established guidelines to mark your place in time? If you’re unsure of these answers, set up a meeting with just you and God to start connecting dots. Study Jeremiah 1:5, commune with God, then affirm yourself.

3) Get Focused

Do you want more of what you’ve always had? Or do you want something better? Set smart goals and put a deadline on each of them. Start off with setting one 30-day goal, then write down two 60-day goals, three 90-day goals, pray it through and work your plan. Once you’ve done this, you’ve already made progress so how about you break out in a victory dance. Go ahead. Do it right where you are! Don’t waste your time watching other people live their lives. Get busy planning and living your own best life.

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Let’s finish this year strong with prayer, preparation and perseverance! Cuffed or not.